Thursday, 20 October 2011

He's Just Not That Into You? So What?!



 On Saturday night I decided I fancied watching a feel good film. The kind where you don’t have to give much thought, provides a few hours of escapism and has a happy ending. I decided to watch He’s Just Not That Into You but instead of curling up on the sofa relaxing in front of a feel good chick flick I found the representation of women in the film massively offensive.

Ginnifer Goodwin plays the character of Gigi, the audience aren’t told her specific job title but we are informed that she is a successful single woman. However despite this she completely obsessed with finding a partner and falling in love. She goes on a single date and completely obsesses over this man, checking for messages and emails to the point where here behaviour borders on obsessive compulsive. She continuously does this throughout the film. Not only is her character massively irritating because of this but it also sends out the message that she cannot be happy unless she has a man in her life and she will basically settle for anyone who happens to call her back.

Gigi and Janine look up wedding venues after one successful date

 Gigi works in the same office as Jennifer Aniston’s character Beth and Jennifer Connelly’s character Janine. Both of these are in long- term relationships and have successful jobs but will drop everything to have a gossip about their love lives. Beth is so obsessed with the idea of marriage that she tries to trick her partner of seven years into marrying her. Her boyfriend is represented as a stand up, faithful partner who is committed to their relationship and explains this to her. He also explains that he doesn’t believe in marriage but does believe in their relationship. However Beth is so obsessed with marriage that after her attempts at manipulation she breaks up with him in the hope she will find another partner more inclined to marry her.

Beth leaves her partner because he won't marry her

Janine is married to her college sweetheart who happens to be having an affair with Anna played by Scarlett Johanson. Upon him admitting his affair she takes the blame and guilt upon herself and openly states that their marriage failed because of her lack of sexual contact with him. The opposite of Janine is Anna who is the woman having the affair with her husband. She is blonde, Janine is dark, Anna is a free spirit and Janine is more conservative. Anna is set up as the seductress who oozes sexuality, which she uses to get Janine’s husband in bed. However both characters end up alone because of their sexuality. Janine because she can’t keep her husband satisfied and Anna because she is aware of her sexuality and uses it to seduce a married man.
Anna seduces a married man

What becomes of GiGi? Well, she finally finds happiness in a relationship because she is cute and passive enough not to offend her partner, not sexualised enough that she needs to be punished for it and she will basically settle for anyone who is interested. 

The lessons learned from He’s Just Not That Into You:

1)      Women are only happy when in a relationship with a man
2)      Beware of your sexuality, If you are aware of it you will end up alone, if you aren’t aware of it you will also end up alone
3)      Your life and the majority of the conversations in it should revolve around men
4)      Women are neurotic and manipulative and will try their best to trick a man into marriage
      5)  Women will settle for any bloke who happens to be ‘into them.’

7 comments:

  1. I love this post and absolutely agree with all your points

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  2. Thank you!I'm pleased someone agrees with me.

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  3. nice post:)ur conclusions r right on!!!
    i liked this movie, watched it with my hubby:)

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  4. Great post, watched this recently with my boyfriend as brain bubblegum. I felt the need to defend the female species throughout the whole movie.
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  5. Yes, you are all absolutely right on the mark with this.

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  6. I'm pleased people agree! I found the representation of women offensive! X

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  7. Two things before I post this: I am a male who has not seen this movie. However, based on the very detailed plot outline by the author of this post, I think I can argue for the producers/writers of this movie.

    1) Women are only happy when in a relationship with a man
    a) I think women and men are happier when they are in a relationship regardless of gender. Would you be saying this if one of the characters were a lesbian? One would never say "Women are only happy when in a relationship with a woman"

    2) Beware of your sexuality, If you are aware of it you will end up alone, if you aren’t aware of it you will also end up alone
    a) Scarlett Johansson's character ended up alone because she made another man betray his unbreakable promise to his wife, not because she is aware of her sexuality; I think she deserves what she got. On the other hand, Anna lost her husband not because she was unaware of her sexuality. She lost him because she blamed herself. The story would have been different if she had flipped out and called him a monster like he is.

    3) Your life and the majority of the conversations in it should revolve around men
    a) This is misleading because of the format that is the cinema. They take snapshots of these women's lives, not the whole thing. They only take what is relevent to the theme of the movie: relationships. Just because the movie shows them talking about men doesn't mean that their lives revolve around it.

    4) Women are neurotic and manipulative and will try their best to trick a man into marriage
    a) People are neurotic and manipulative, men and women. This movie just happened to have more women than men in it. (Because the movie is about the women, right?) If you saw the movie and gathered that men are not neurotic and manipulative, that is sexist, because the movie never states that. The movie just tells a story of a neurotic and manipulative woman.

    5) Women will settle for any bloke who happens to be ‘into them.’
    a) I fear for the female gender if people actually learns this "lesson". It is statistically PROVEN that women are more selective when it comes to choosing a mate. Women look at money, power, personality, and looks while men look at looks and personality. This is no surprise because women were in a subservient position for a long time so they definitely see the need to "marry up". This will change though. I am totally in for a sugar momma.

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